Saturday, March 7, 2009

One final(e) recap.

I know that some of our blog readers (ie: my parents) probably wish the suject of Jason Messnick would die, but I have just a few more things to add. I watched Jason, Molly, Chris, and Melissa on Ellen this week, and she asked the hard questions for us (haha.) Here is the info I got:
According to Chris (the host): None of it was set up. Jason told him that he and Melissa were breaking up and he wanted another chance with Molly BEFORE the show even ABC scrambled to film the first segment of 'After the Rose part 1' so that Jason would be able to tell Molly how he felt (and according to Jason, he was worried that ABC would ask her to be the Bachelorette before he could tell her how he felt.) Chris is mad that his 'integrity is being questioned.'

According to Melissa: She knew things were ending with Jason before the 'After the Rose part 1' aired. She was confused as to why it was taping early and repeatedly asked Jason if it was about Molly, which he denied. When he told her ON THE SHOW, she was angry (hence, calling him a B*******) because he had lied to her about it. She also said that he and Molly HAD been in contact. She said she knew of at least one phone call between them after the show ended but before he broke up with her (melissa).

Then Ellen asked if the emails that had been leaked onto the internet were real...and they ARE!!!
Oh, you haven't read them? Well, here ya go!

—– Original Message —–

To: Jason Mesnick
Sent: Mon Jan 19 08:18:10 2009
So last night didn’t go NEAR how I thought. I didn’t think I would be
that angry (I’m not sure I’ve EVER been that angry to be honest with
you….), but I’m sorry for how heated I got. At the same time though, I’m not. I still can’t believe how you can’t give reasons other than ‘It changed.’
In relationships (especially ones where committments are involved), you FIGHT,you TRY, you COMMUNICATE to make things work. You know as well as I do that you didn’t give 100% to me or the relationship. And I don’t understand how you can walk away from something without giving it your all - but I am walking away knowing I did.
And getting confirmation about Molly in front of people like that was a
complete classless move if you ask me - how could you do that to me
after Irepe atedly asked you about it??? I’m not stupid, I knew about
Molly…knew you guys had been talking….and you lied to me about it. For you to choose to b e with someone who most of the girls in the house didn’t get a long with, and bashed me when she left, then more power to you both. You owed it to me to tell me this before last night…and I can’t believe you did that to me publicly. I can’t even tell you how much respect I lost for you….but it makes this whole process from here on out much easier for me.
Please don’t respond…I really just wanted to apologize for getting so
angry last night - but I hope you understand why I did….
From: “Jason Mesnick”
Date: Mon, 19 Jan 2009 08:52:58 -0800

Subject: Re:
The producers had a lot to do with it. I am so sorry. This is so

Sent: Monday, January 19, 2009 9:11 AM
To: Jason Mesnick
Subject: Re:
(This coming from the man who told me not to trust producers…..) Then
congratulations on being produced….but I don’t believe you. You are a
grown man, and perfectly capable of making your own decisions. Own your actions and stop blaming this process..

From: “Jason Mesnick”
Sent: Monday, January 19, 2009 01:37 AM
Subject: RE:
I wish we could have had that same conversation away from cameras. You are so right about feeling everything you do. I deserved everything you said.
They really didn’t want me to say anything to you until the cameras were there and you know that I couldn’t do that. I tried and I hate what I
have done to you. You don’t deserve any of it at all. I wish there were more that I could say. Its just things really felt different and I didn’t
want to be thinking about her and wish I could control it. I want to take all of your pain away and put it on me. If you are talking about Karma, I
slipped and fell and had a huge gash in my leg 3 inches wide and to the bone. I deserve so much worse for what I am doing to you. Obviously you know more about me now and you just deserve so much more. I hate that I had to say that to you, and you had to hear that. You do need to heal and if that means never talking to me again or if that means, you getting angry with meas often as you want, I will do it all.
You do not need to give me any reasons for your actions; I think you did
what you had to do.

—–Original Message—–

Sent: Wednesday, January 21, 2009 8:24 AM
To: Jason Mesnick
Subject: RE:
I do hope you understand my frustrations then. The fact that even after
‘production’ was wrapped, you still let producers manipulate our
‘relationship’ is frustrating. At what point do you say, “Hey,
guys…youdid your part, and now it’s our turn to have a real relationship without you meddling and telling us what to say and do?” When I look at it that way, I’m thankful I found this out now. And I’ll just say, the Molly thing wasn’t a secret….just wish you’d had the decency to tell me before I was put in front of TV cameras - regardless of what Martin was telling you, as a person, a friend, etc…you owed me that. Especially since you were the one who kept saying you didn’t want any surprises at this thing……ironic, eh? Seeing the person that you became, you are right: a relationship between you and I would never work out - and that’s why I’m thankful this happened sooner rather than later. Unfortunately, you were not the person that I thought you were - and that’s ok….just a little embarrassed I fell for it I guess. I do think it’s a little ironic, though that you kept telling me, “morally, how could I ever get back with DeAnna after what she did to me?” And I agree….just seems like a very similar situation with your new lady…..Just a little irony I guess.
Anyway, I’m not mad…I’m not hurt - seeing how things were handled,helped me get over things very quickly. I do wish you both the best though.
Take care.

I understand everything and I wish more than anything I didn’t let them
get in the way. I handled that part so poorly. It sounds like you are
doing well and am so glad. Just know that I feel so horribly about this.
It is a pain I will live with forever. I will not make any excuses you
are a wonderful person and I am sorry for everything. I do want you to
know that when I proposed to you it was from the heart and wanted to be with you forever.

YOU GO GIRL!! I love Melissa. She has a new man, so we can all stop feeling so bad for her. :)

Jason and Molly were last to come on the show, and once I cleaned my drink that I flung at their faces off of the tv, I was able to see that, yes, they have something to prove. And they are proving it by molesting eachother on TV. Seriously, I do have to admit that I feel VERY bad for Molly, she was worried that they were going to 'boo' her when she came out onstage. Oh Molly, don't be silly! We hate JASON, not you! Anyway, apparently they are planning to live apart for awhile, then maybe she will move to Seattle, and we will see from there. No marriage plans according to them.
Jason did say that he made a huge mistake going on national television to break up with Melissa. YA THINK?

Anyway, again, I appreciate all the comments about this. I love hearing what everyone has to think, and I love hearing the scoops and scandles now that it is over.

I do plan to blog about our new life in Indiana soon....I have been busy unpacking, editing, and trying to get to know our surroundings, that I barely have 5 seconds to google Bachelor gossip! hahaha.


Amber said...

Joy, I love it All! I wasn't even going to watch this season until I started reading your recaps on the show so I fully dove in and became addicted! Can't wait to watch Jillian. Hope all is well, moving sucks.

Wright said...

sweeeet post, Joy. Very informative~~~ I still hate him with all of my heart.

Alysha said...

I have absolutely LOVED your Bachelor posts and will miss them as much as the show itself! Seriously can't wait for the Bachelorette... :)
I hope your move is going well and good luck with the unpacking!

Shannon said...

WOW do you think those are real?!?!? I mean, they sound the way they would speak...interesting! Thanks for posting...AGAIN!

erin and shaun said...

I had no idea about these emails. Thanks for the scoop.

Amanda, Jared and Camden said...

Im glad you posted the emails. After watching ellen i was really curious about what they were talking about.
Honestly, I don't see it lasting. It looked to me like jason was more into molly than molly was in to jason. Its just a show to try to prove something or justify what he did to melissa. He is NOT cute anymore.

Sherwoods said...

Wow, thanks for posting the juicy. LOVE IT! Did you hear Melissa is going to be on Dancing with the Stars now? Now get blogging about those cute girls for your parents! Thanks for the updates though!

Jean Smith Photography said...

yes, let the subject of jason die. haha! just kidding...i don't know anything about the bachelor, but apparently 90% of the rest of the world does, so enjoy the drama while it lasts!!! how are you settling?

Karen said...

Wow, you are making quite the name for yourself. The bachelor guru. I hadn't heard anything about leaked emails and i'm so glad you posted them. I wanted Mel to win and was so glad when she did. I felt horrible when he humiliated her on national tv. If he was so torn over breaking up with Molly, he shouldn't have proposed to melissa 5 minutes later. he could have said I want to be with you but can't propose just yet, let's date some's happened that way before... but now that it's all over and melissa's moved on, I'm kind of happy for molly and jason--is that SO wrong?!

hendywow said...

I hope you're adjusting well, we still miss you and we found a little white hoodie, that the girls left, Porter suggested that we just come and see you so we could give it back.. Well here is some fun news; Melissa is the new "last minute girl" on Dancing with the stars, she replaced Nancy O'dell? when she was injured, Merlissa did a great job for only having 2 days to practice, and I think she has a big enough fan base from the Bachelor to stay on for a while.

Chels said...

Couldn't agree more girl! I like Melissa, and I was so MAD to hear how this went. She's kicking butt on DWTS now though, so that's good....

leroberson said...

It was so such a great season and he is such a JERK! I love love love that she is doing so great on DWTS!! I really hope she wins and is happy with her new boyfriend.